[core] Dispatch controller updates through generated direct calls (#19588)

script/helpers.py

@@ -429,11 +429,9 @@ def build_all_include(header_files: list[str] | None = None) -> None:
             if line
         ]
 
-    from esphome.writer import ENTITY_TYPES_H_TARGET
+    from esphome.writer import ESPHOME_H_EXCLUDE
 
-    # X-macro files are included multiple times with different macro definitions
-    # and must not be included bare in the all-include header
-    exclude = {ENTITY_TYPES_H_TARGET}
+    exclude = {path.as_posix() for path in ESPHOME_H_EXCLUDE}
     headers = [f'#include "{h}"' for h in header_files if h not in exclude]
     headers.sort()
     headers.append("")